In times when everything is allowed and nothing is more shocking, it can be difficult to experience and experience eroticism. The constant overstimulation of stimuli has blunted most people of eroticism and sexuality. The breath of the forbidden from which the erotic gathering once lived is missing.
Love, lust and - role playing
But man in his ingenuity is a source of constant innovation and renewal. So it has also managed to breathe new life into eroticism.
You had to search for something, but you still found things that are more or less taboo and that are therefore surrounded by the aura of the mysterious and forbidden.
The half-life of relationships is getting shorter and shorter, which may not least be due to the already mentioned dulling of sexuality.
So it is up to the couples not only to find a consensus on everyday issues that everyone can live with, but also to constantly reinvent and redefine themselves in a sexual way. - More often something new, so to speak.
Everyone has imagination, but not only imagination, but also fantasies, erotic fantasies to be more precise. Something abstract or concrete that already gives the individual a pleasure if he only thinks about it. Often these erotic desires remain unfulfilled because they are not communicated openly and understandably with the partner.
But that does not have to be because the partner also has secret sexual desires that he would like to live out. So here a couple has the opportunity to help each other catapult themselves to the next level of eroticism - and it doesn't take much more than a short conversation.
Normally, most secret desires are rare ... but who wants to be normal? Nobody! Certainly, some fantasies are more common than others, but all are equally valuable and equally worth trying.
The key word here is courage to try something new. Many couples are often surprised at how much pleasure they find in the new sexual practices and what strong positive effects this more satisfying sex life can have on everyday life.
Shackles, whips, pleasure
A common sexual fantasy in many people involves bondage of all kinds. And that's not a new development either. It has been proven that bondage and the like have been a verifiable sexual phenomenon throughout the entire tangible history of mankind.
In the prudish Middle Ages as well as in the extravagant ancient Rome or the even earlier cultures from Mesopotamia, it was nothing too surprising to achieve a special erotic charm by being tied up by one's partner or by being tied up.
The methods to tie someone are extremely numerous and also where can bring an immense pleasure.
As a newcomer to the world of erotic bondage games, you should probably take it easy at first. That does not mean that it can not be wild! Only one should perhaps not immediately with full steam ahead trying to enter the matter, but slowly approaching. Because sometimes too much enthusiasm can put an end to the experiment early - and you should not let something potentially so beautiful really be messed up by being too harsh. The strenght is to be found in serenity.
How do you start?
The best way to start at home and there best of all in bed. Because the domestic bed usually offers the best bondage options. Bed posts, head and foot are just as useful as the legs of the bed or the frame.
Also, the choice of the medium, with which one intends to tie his opponent should be well planned. It is best to climb in with a softer material. A nice scarf maybe or a soft rope - leather and flax will still have time later (and also require a bit more practice).
No too tight knots at the beginning. Even if the partner should beg for it. Sometimes it happens that newbies do not get the knots open anymore ... when used correctly, they can pull the knots on their own during the act. That's why there's certainly nothing wrong with it.
That is why it is right at the beginning: Everything is allowed, but do not rush anything!
The power of impotence
Some people like the idea of exercising power over others, be it physically or mentally. Other people, on the other hand, prefer the idea of being dominated by another person - again physically as well as psychologically.
There can be many reasons for this. Often sexually submissive people in everyday life are very dominant people, have about dominant position in their company or otherwise a firm stand. It is also the case with dominant people who can be really shy outside the bedroom. You always look for what you do not have - also in the sexual field.
The "fields of activity" of dominants and subordinates are almost unlimited. Often the already mentioned BDSM bondage games are used to express the role of the respective partner. But of course it can go much further than "just" bondage.
Some devotees feel a special charm in being exposed to physical pain. To create this pain, you can use a variety of tools - be it whips, whips or even clubs or batons. Some like it much harder than others.
But mental pain is not uncommon in the bedrooms of couples with a tendency to power games. Through words or attenuated forms of existing mental torture methods can cause deep mental wounds ... Of course, they are not permanent and are only for the purpose of increasing pleasure in the moment of the act.
You should be careful not to overdo it. Before each act you should make out with the partner a so-called "safe word". If this safe word is called, all actions must be stopped immediately and without objection. As a result, as a submissive part, you have a certainty that you will not be fucked too hard.
It is a very individual topic where everyone has to test their own limits. There is no general recipe for how much pain should be experienced or exercised to experience maximum sexual utilization. But it remains: everything in moderation.
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