Modern dating agencies today work with scientifically recognized psychodiagnostic testing procedures to ensure the best possible fit between two potential partners in advance.
Which love type are you?
These personality psychological questionnaires also include the “Marburg attitudes inventory on love styles”, abbreviated to MEIL. The questions collected there are intended to determine what the respondent understands by love and how the personal and individual love style is lived in everyday life.
It is easy to imagine that it is precisely in this intimate area of personality that harmony and consensus between potential partners are of crucial importance.
Fancy some self-knowledge?
Since you have read further up to this point, it is likely that you would like to know what kind of love you have yourself. Maybe you would like to do a secret check with your partner. In any case, it can only be useful to know yourself and others well in this highly personal way. Therefore, you should read through the following descriptions in a relaxed manner, and then be honest with yourself.
Type 1: Romantic passion ("Eros")
Here love does not pass through the stomach, but through the bed. A fulfilled ecstatic sexuality and a burning desire for the only beloved partner determine this type. Here hot hearts are blazing and tingling sensuality lures. Because in this partnership for both an absolute erotic and emotional dream came true, nobody is strangers here. Because there is nothing left to be desired at home.
Type 2: sandpit love ("Storge")
An intimate and harmonious friendship is the beginning of everything here. Most of the partners know each other since childhood, or at least they have been feeling everlasting. Here harmony, understanding and cooperation reign. Strife is a foreign word for these friendly lovers, and otherwise everything runs smoothly on a balanced emotional level.
Type 3: Sacrifice ("Agape")
Anyone who would do anything, really everything for his partner, to make him happy and satisfied, scores in this category. Your own wishes and needs are absolutely subordinate, because only the well-being of the partner counts. This can go to the complete self-abandonment. Even if he or she does not return the fierce feelings.
Type 4: Frenzy on the emotional roller coaster ("Mania")
The air is constantly burning. Extreme jealousy and a pronounced sense of ownership over the object of desire make sure that everything is always about fear of loss. Here is stapled and suffered, what the stuff holds. For alas, the partner would at one time lack attention or attention. Or even cheating. That could not only drive this guy into madness, but in extreme cases even to suicide.
Type 5: The game of love ("Ludus")
Just don't cry out of love - that's the motto of these easy-going and easy-going people who collect affairs and one-night stands like other people collect coaster. This guy is not looking for a steady relationship and certainly not a monogamous bond, but rather lots of sensual adventure, preferably at the same time. Because the more sandwiches and tartlets you can conquer, the better your self-esteem.
Type 6: partnership simulation ("pragma")
Emotions are sought in vain for the pragmatic type. If the intended partner fits harmoniously into the meticulously elaborated life plan, and visually meets the well-defined criteria, then it is automatically the right one or the right person. Here, a solid future planning is in the foreground, whose principles also the partner must declare to their own. The rest is unimportant.
Did you recognize yourself in one of the descriptions particularly accurately? Or your partner? Then you have now got a first impression of how and where love can fall in and with you. Of course, several of the descriptions can apply more or less to you. Then you now have the opportunity to reflect on yourself further as a “mixed type”.
If partners in key attitudes, values, and beliefs do not agree, then sooner or later the relationship will be upset. The discovery of one's own attitude to love can then be a great help and a valuable explanation for both. And if you've had trouble finding a partner at all, knowing your individual love style could even provide the key to happiness.