Social skills are a skill that children must first learn. No human being is born as a social being, so communicating and demanding a positive social behavior is an important part of the socialization and education process. Social behavior of children is influenced by the parents and the social environment of the children.
Pushing, annoying, bullying? How to promote social behavior of children
In our society a social and constructive cooperation is desired. Every person is expected to comply not only with laws but also with norms and values.
If you do not, you have problems coping with other people and you quickly become an outsider.
Therefore, it should be an important educational goal for you as a parent to teach your child the basic rules of social interaction. Later, you will be assisted in this task by institutions such as kindergartens and schools.
At first, infants and toddlers are only fixated on themselves. They react in a driven way and can not reset their needs. In this context, educators and sociologists speak of childlike egocentrism.
Are children little egoists?
For toddlers, the world revolves around itself. But this has nothing to do with selfishness: a little child simply has not yet learned to recognize the needs of others and to behave accordingly. In addition, it can not yet reflect its own actions and their consequences. For example, a two-year-old child is often unaware that he or she is guilty of another fault. It still can not be understood that it causes pain to his playing partner. A conscience in the moral sense does not exist at this age.
To make matters worse, the fact that language is not yet sufficiently developed as the most important social medium of interaction. Education, progressive cognitive, emotional and social development as well as individual experiences in dealing with other children and also adults help your child to expand his social skills.
Social behavior of children only succeeds in contact with others
Experiments and observations in children have proven that social behavior needs to be learned in early childhood.
Children growing up in social isolation find it difficult to compensate for the lack of social learning experiences and contacts later in their development.
Therefore, it is important that your child has early contact with other children. For example, visit a playgroup or do something with friendly families on a regular basis. The learning effect for your child is great and you also have the opportunity to interact with other parents.
Crèches and kindergartens also make an important contribution when it comes to promoting social behavior. Your child meets many different children there and learns to put their needs aside and resolve conflicts constructively. Therefore, bring your child to the care facility on a regular basis and help the educators to strengthen social interaction by insisting on compliance at home.
Good behavior - still an important topic in education?
Politeness and good manners were among the most important educational goals for earlier generations. But are these values still relevant today? Yes, a positive social behavior of children is more important than ever.
The fact is that courtesy is also an expression of respect for others. In addition, everyone wants to be treated courteously. Therefore, good manners are still a topic when it comes to social skills and social behavior.
If you value good behavior, you should show this to your child right from the start. In terms of their behavior, children orient themselves first to their parents. "Learning by the model" is the term used in educational jargon.
Encourage your child to use courtesy phrases such as "please" and "thank you" and do so yourself as often as possible. Later, you can explain why it is important to be polite and friendly. Because who does not follow the social rules of the game, it will tick. Friendliness, on the other hand, can open the floodgates - both professionally and privately.
Strengthen children's social behavior and social skills - what is important?
Above all, children need to learn how to behave between themselves and with adults. To do this, they first have to internalize many rules, such as the social norm that physical aggression is not desired. Little children will not understand the meaning and purpose of this rule until they are able to empathize with their "victim" and realize that they themselves do not want to be beaten.
So, if your toddler is trying to force a toy, for example, as a mother or father you need to intervene immediately and defuse the situation. Tell your child to wait or have another toy. Later, you should encourage your child to verbally resolve conflicts, find compromises, or seek help from adults.
If you set up rules for social interaction, you must also ensure that they are adhered to. This is exhausting, but necessary so that your child understands their meaning and really internalizes it. If it comes to rule violations, for example, when playing with other children, you must take consistent. A measure in this case could be that your child may not invite friends for a while.
It is important that you repeatedly point out alternative nonviolent behavior and enhance polite, social behavior with praise.